Hello from a French mom in the US Jul 20, 2018 15:38:22 GMT 9
Post by Adam Beck on Jul 20, 2018 15:38:22 GMT 9
I have always maintained my goal in mind (full literacy in both languages), but recently I have grown frustrated by the lack of response from my daughters in French, to the point that it does impact the relationship with my 5 year old. It's in that state of desperation that I discovered Adam’s book and it has really given me hope that I can succeed in my “mission”.
So far, what saved me is an annual trip to France where I leave the oldest one with my parents for several weeks in the summer.
So I have set up an action plan...
So overall, I am very excited and full of hope that it is not too late to continue working at my goal for my daughters, while making our relationship richer.
...but thought this forum would be a great place to share my journey with people who can give me better advice than “your child will not speak your language, just accept it, it happens to everybody”.
Elise, welcome! I'm really happy to hear that my book has helped give you new hope.
The hard reality is, the circumstances you describe are quite challenging and it will take persistent effort each day, and long-term perseverance, to realize your goal of full literacy in both languages...but this is certainly possible and it sounds like you have the necessary determination and resourcefulness to realize a lot of happy success over the months and years ahead.
Yes, your annual trips to France will continue to provide a powerful boost to your efforts at home. (See this guest post: Bilingual Travelers: Blue Skies and Bilingual Success in France.) And I loudly applaud your action plan for the future, as these are the kinds of proactive steps that will steadily fuel your progress, despite the dominating minority language environment. (Another guest post worth a look: Battling the Majority Language Giant (While Feeling Like a Minority Language Gnome).)
Ultimately, Elise, the outcome of our bilingual journey really depends on how important this aim is to us and how "obsessive" (in a good way ) we are about advancing toward it. The difficulties other parents may allude to are real, but that doesn't mean failure is a foregone conclusion. So I'm glad you're here, among other "obsessive" parents who have made the bilingual goal a central, not secondary, part of our lives.
Again, I'm glad you're feeling hopeful! Don't hesitate to reach out whenever that hope runs low! And I look forward to hearing good news from you as time goes by!