Post by Laura Catherine on Sept 2, 2018 21:38:11 GMT 9
Hola! My daughter is 18 months and I speak to her exclusively in Spanish. We don't belong to a Spanish-speaking community, but I am a Spanish teacher. Before she was born, my husband was going to be her English input, but he really got into learning Spanish and now speaks around 80% of the time to her in Spanish. I'm really proud of his entusiasmo and support! My daughter says six words total and they're in Spanish (which makes me so proud!). I don't want to dial back any of her Spanish from either of us because I want to give her this opportunity of rich input before the English world takes over in her life.
People are starting to ask us how she will learn English. My husband and I know that even though Spanish is the ML for now, English will be the ML for the rest of her life once she starts school (can't afford our city's dual-immersion school, but she'll go to the Concordia Language Villages for summer camp every year). We're just not concerned about her picking up English, but so many other people seem to be that I wonder if we maybe should be more concerned. In my mind, if she goes to preschool knowing colors, numbers, etc. in Spanish, while there might be a period of confusion, she'll eventually learn them in English (same with other things). I'm hoping she'll learn phrases to interact with other kids as she plays with them these next few years and when she starts school. Or will she just be confused and isolated?
I know ml@h is a strategy people employ, which is essentially what we're doing. I'm wondering if we're being too lax on getting her English, though. Any support or ideas would be appreciated!
Don't worry, all monolinguals say that to ml@home parents! We're also a ml@h family, and we get that all the time.
It will get better once your daughter starts speaking in English and these people will realise your child really is bilingual. Though you will then start worrying about your daughter losing her minority language (ml) under the influence of the Majority Language (ML) at school!
To avoid any confusion when schooling time comes, have you thought of paving the way by having your daughter looked after by a ML-speaking babysitter on a regular basis, or spending more time with their ML-speaking grandparents?
By the way, does your daughter understand when ML-speakers such as her grandparents speak to her? If so, that could be an argument to fend off well-intended people "worrying" that your daughter might not speak the ML.
Monolinguals often cannot fathom the idea that a baby can handle more than one language because the adults can't do it themselves. We have a friend who has always been a bit mocking at our choice of trilingual education. One day he came over for dinner and his jaw literally fell when he heard for the first time my eldest speak fluently in ml to me. (Karma can taste so sweet when it finally comes round. )
The bilingual journey is full of nay-sayers and well-intended persons. Just smile and walk past. Follow your journey.
***"Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you'll land among the stars" - Oscar Wilde***
Laura Catherine, I would agree completely with Amy's helpful advice. I know it's uncomfortable when people pose such questions, but the fact is, even if you did nothing at all to support the development of her English side, she will still acquire fluent English in preschool, as many children of non-English-speaking immigrants have done throughout U.S. history (including some of my own ancestors).
So the issue, then, isn't "How will she learn English?"--because, of course, she will--but "How can you help ease her transition into the English environment of schooling without undercutting your own productive efforts to nurture her language development in Spanish?"
As Amy suggests, I would strongly second the idea of seeking out other speakers of English to spend regular time with your daughter. (But you needn't overdo it--an hour or two a week, and maybe more when preschool is approaching--would be enough to get her going. Your aim, after all, is to "ease her transition to schooling," not "achieve fluency prior to schooling," which could compete with your early and beneficial head start in Spanish.) See this post at Bilingual Monkeys for further ideas...
Once you've put in place this English support, not only will it be helpful for your daughter's transition to preschool, but it will likely make it easier for you to respond to others' "concerns" about your daughter learning English because you can then explain that she'll acquire English just fine from these other speakers and from school.
Let us know how it goes, Laura Catherine!
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Amy: Agnese, it is simply because they never had the opportunity to be acquainted so closely to that language. Just smile and keep going. Over time (even if this may seem long), the comments will fade. Don't show your son you are embarrassed by your ml.
Jul 16, 2018 3:56:41 GMT 9
Adam Beck: Agnese, I strongly second Amy's advice! Stay strong and continue speaking Italian!
Jul 18, 2018 6:22:37 GMT 9
Adam Beck: And Agnese, keep in mind that, above all, the highest priority is your bilingual aim, not the other passing concerns that are part of this experience (for us all). Don't let these distract you from the greater goal.
Jul 18, 2018 6:24:49 GMT 9
Agnese: Thank you! After this setback I feel stronger than ever! The same day of the incident I ordered plenty of books in the ml on Amazon and I'm reading every day new research on bilingualism and bilingual education. I'm ready to defend my goal! Thanks
Jul 19, 2018 18:37:58 GMT 9
Agnese: Thank you for the suggestion!
Jul 21, 2018 15:40:43 GMT 9
Mayken: My daughter met some inversed ML/ml kids today who live in our ml country. Their parents probably weren't thrilled they found n ML (for them) friend in their ml country. I'm sorry...a little bit.
Aug 7, 2018 2:07:34 GMT 9
Amy: Looks like the 3 weeks in ml1 country paid off: my ML mother reports my youngest would only speak ml1 to her! Lol Not sure ML childminder will be so happy when she returns... loool!
Aug 25, 2018 0:38:50 GMT 9
Mayken: Sounds like fun times ahead, Amy! Keep us posted.
Aug 27, 2018 23:15:08 GMT 9
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Aug 31, 2018 10:30:39 GMT 9
Amy: Happiest bilingual mum in the world : the new lady who conducts activities in ml2 with my eldest just assessed her level as pretty much equivalent to that of a native ml2 child! After that awful back-to-school start, this is like music to my ears.
Sept 6, 2018 0:00:13 GMT 9
Wojtek: I've been thinking for a long time to write an update and hopefully, I will do it one day. My brother married a Russian woman. That was nice to see that my 5-year-old daughter could play with her and speak English together!
Sept 7, 2018 21:37:25 GMT 9
Wojtek: After some time, she ran up and told me: "She is speaking English!"
Sept 7, 2018 21:38:31 GMT 9
Adam Beck: Nice to hear your happy news, Wojtek! And congratulations to your brother and his bride! It sounds like they may have a bilingual child in their future, too! Cheers to you all!
Sept 7, 2018 21:58:17 GMT 9