Hi everyone, I have spent a long time reading the thread about "embarrassment when talking in the ml in public "and I think your ideas are great and have given me a new perspective on how to face situations when we are in public with our baby. Sam's blog post about this issue is tremendously encouraging and describes perfectly the feelings ml parents have, especially non-native ml parents like me.
However, my concern is quite specific. I don't know how to deal with situations in which someone talks to my 14-month-old baby in ML and obviously expects me to answer for her. I know I don't have to use the ML in front of my baby, and if I do so I feel she doesn't understand me because I never speak to her in the ML. When this happens, I usually answer very briefly to that person, (maybe sounding a bit impolite...) or I speak to my baby in ml and then I see how people seem to start walking away silently...as if we didn't want to interact with them (this has happened especially with children who approach us to play with her). So the problem is that it seems that I have to choose between my baby's language development or our sociability. What can I do in this situation?I feel so stupid when this happens...
Hi, Angela. If you mean situations like when someone says something like: "And how old are you, little one?", what I do is tell my child in the ml: "Say: hi, I'm [age]" and then tell this person in the ML "S/he's [age]". This happens to me a lot with my son, and so I talk to him in the ml and translate for other adults. For instance, when we arrive at his nursery school every morning, teachers there say hello to him in the ML and I always tell my son "Say: hello!/hi!/good morning!" and then say hi to the teacher in the ML myself. No one has ever felt offended...and if someone does, that's their problem, really.
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Agnese: Thank you for the suggestion!
Jul 21, 2018 15:40:43 GMT 9
Mayken: My daughter met some inversed ML/ml kids today who live in our ml country. Their parents probably weren't thrilled they found n ML (for them) friend in their ml country. I'm sorry...a little bit.
Aug 7, 2018 2:07:34 GMT 9
Amy: Looks like the 3 weeks in ml1 country paid off: my ML mother reports my youngest would only speak ml1 to her! Lol Not sure ML childminder will be so happy when she returns... loool!
Aug 25, 2018 0:38:50 GMT 9
Mayken: Sounds like fun times ahead, Amy! Keep us posted.
Aug 27, 2018 23:15:08 GMT 9
Adam Beck: NEW! Something Strange Happened 2 Days After We Moved into Our New House (And Its Significance to Change and Transformation on the Bilingual Journey)buff.ly/2ww8WDD
Aug 31, 2018 10:30:39 GMT 9
Amy: Happiest bilingual mum in the world : the new lady who conducts activities in ml2 with my eldest just assessed her level as pretty much equivalent to that of a native ml2 child! After that awful back-to-school start, this is like music to my ears.
Sept 6, 2018 0:00:13 GMT 9
Wojtek: I've been thinking for a long time to write an update and hopefully, I will do it one day. My brother married a Russian woman. That was nice to see that my 5-year-old daughter could play with her and speak English together!
Sept 7, 2018 21:37:25 GMT 9
Wojtek: After some time, she ran up and told me: "She is speaking English!"
Sept 7, 2018 21:38:31 GMT 9
Adam Beck: Nice to hear your happy news, Wojtek! And congratulations to your brother and his bride! It sounds like they may have a bilingual child in their future, too! Cheers to you all!
Sept 7, 2018 21:58:17 GMT 9
Mayken: Victor's flashcards look amazing! I hope I'll win the giveaway - if not, I'll purchase a set for Christmas for sure. Thanks Adam for sharing these gems with us!
Sept 26, 2018 23:32:30 GMT 9
Marisa: Adam, I second Mayken's enthusiasm and gratitude for your posting about Victor's flashcards, they look amazing, thank you so much for the post! I already bought one set
Sept 30, 2018 10:25:51 GMT 9