Hi everyone, I have spent a long time reading the thread about "embarrassment when talking in the ml in public "and I think your ideas are great and have given me a new perspective on how to face situations when we are in public with our baby. Sam's blog post about this issue is tremendously encouraging and describes perfectly the feelings ml parents have, especially non-native ml parents like me.
However, my concern is quite specific. I don't know how to deal with situations in which someone talks to my 14-month-old baby in ML and obviously expects me to answer for her. I know I don't have to use the ML in front of my baby, and if I do so I feel she doesn't understand me because I never speak to her in the ML. When this happens, I usually answer very briefly to that person, (maybe sounding a bit impolite...) or I speak to my baby in ml and then I see how people seem to start walking away silently...as if we didn't want to interact with them (this has happened especially with children who approach us to play with her). So the problem is that it seems that I have to choose between my baby's language development or our sociability. What can I do in this situation?I feel so stupid when this happens...
Hi, Angela. If you mean situations like when someone says something like: "And how old are you, little one?", what I do is tell my child in the ml: "Say: hi, I'm [age]" and then tell this person in the ML "S/he's [age]". This happens to me a lot with my son, and so I talk to him in the ml and translate for other adults. For instance, when we arrive at his nursery school every morning, teachers there say hello to him in the ML and I always tell my son "Say: hello!/hi!/good morning!" and then say hi to the teacher in the ML myself. No one has ever felt offended...and if someone does, that's their problem, really.
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Amy: Last year, a new colleague joined my team. She's trilingual in the same languages as me. It was like magic. We change languages and even code-switch several time a day. I had missed that so much!! My monolingual colleagues must think we're freaks! lol
May 8, 2019 4:56:12 GMT 9
Amy: Unfortunately, she has resigned and is leaving shortly. I was so proud to introduce her to my eldest, one day that I had brought her to show her round my office. And to introduce other bi/multilingual colleagues. Show how important languages are.
May 8, 2019 4:58:26 GMT 9
Mayken: That must have been wonderful, Amy! I'm sorry she is leaving. I would love to find someone like that. We had an English intern last year who spoke German and French. We chatted a lot.
May 8, 2019 6:06:01 GMT 9
Caro C.: Oh Amy I sort of feel related to what you are saying. Some months ago I made a friend from the US. She happens to be a neighbor with four kids. We’ve been sharing back and forth and I’d love my baby girl to eventually be able to share with her children
May 13, 2019 12:55:09 GMT 9
Caro C.: Although maybe they will be a bit old for her, still we (I mean their mom = Sarah and me) both are very happy and grateful for each other as friends.
May 13, 2019 12:57:05 GMT 9
Mayken: As of yesterday, I am aunt to a baby girl who lives in our ml country with 2 ml parents, and I'm already planning to get them a nice nursery rhymes CD for our first visit.
May 16, 2019 20:03:47 GMT 9
Adam Beck: Nice, Mayken! Have a happy visit!
May 17, 2019 9:10:21 GMT 9
Caro C.: OMG I just came across this song and it filled my heart with joy and excitement...perfect for all of us who are parents: youtu.be/g1fcnhB8GOY
May 19, 2019 14:01:55 GMT 9
Adam Beck: Caro, thanks for sharing that lovely song. Raffi was one of our very favorite musicians when my kids were small. We listened to him all the time. I highly recommend his albums as a source of very enjoyable and very effective English input.
May 20, 2019 15:32:26 GMT 9
Mayken: My daughter is on a field trip this week and I feel like I've lost my main purpose
May 20, 2019 20:03:33 GMT 9
Raquel: That's cute, Mayken. I hope you enjoyed all that extra free time.
May 29, 2019 18:17:39 GMT 9
SheilaC: I am concern about our upcoming big change to Public school with all English teaching and minimal Spanish. We have been lucky until now with Spanish speaking Nanny and Spanish immersion preschool. We are doing 2-day per week with Spanish after school.
May 31, 2019 10:51:49 GMT 9
Amy: @sheilac, I suggest you create an actual thread on the "Questions & Concerns" board, so fellow Zoo Keepers can help you with your concerns. 256 characters is too little to discuss something that is so important to your heart
Jun 2, 2019 23:44:41 GMT 9
Mayken: Adam Beck, thanks for that very interesting and timely post - it justifies the large order for ml books and DVDs I'm about to place in view of my daughters upcoming birthday!
Jun 3, 2019 23:46:00 GMT 9
Adam Beck: Great to hear this, Mayken! And happy birthday to both yours and mine! (They have the same birthday, don't they?) And if anyone missed that post, here's the link once more...
Jun 4, 2019 8:03:42 GMT 9