That last comment had me laughing. I don't know how you do it! I don't think I would have been able to start speaking in the ml with my husband when either of my children were that little. I don't want this sounding the wrong way, but I need to say that it's okay to break the rules every now and then now that your son is little and he won't notice. I feel that we, parents, are sometimes -all the time, actually- too hard on ourselves.
I do break the rules quite a lot! Those extra few seconds of deciding which language to use are helpful though. I can have quite an impatient personality sometimes and, especially with my husband, I can say too much without thinking if I'm in a bad mood. The restraint is a good thing as it gives me time to decide if I should count to 10 before I blow!
Just wanted to remind you that you are amazing! Your husband and your son are so so lucky to have you, so driven and persistent.
My son has been sick the whole week last week, as well. Sleep deprivation and frustrations are here with me too and it is very hard when you don't have time for other things. I sometimes skype my mom to let off steam. It helps because then I speak my language with her and it's very different than doing it in a foreign language.
I noticed that your difficulties are getting much shorter than your positives, though. Congratulations on that! You're doing very well.
Thanks Undraa! You are an inspiration to me as you've done so well getting your children to use the ml under such difficult circumstances.
It’s a long time since I posted here but thought I could come back for an update.
My son is now 3 1/2 and fluent in the ml. We’ve had 3 trips to visit family in total and he was instantly really comfortable with them because they can communicate so easily which was amazing to see. His ml is better than mine and I often ask him to remind me of the word for something or I notice him using a phrase or grammar construction that I’m less confident with. Life has been so busy that I haven’t made huge efforts with my own progress with ml but because we read his books every day and listen to children’s songs then I’ve made enough progress to keep up. My son is really familiar with me saying I’m not sure of the word for that, let’s check and we use google translate and then look up the translation to get some more ideas on how to use that word properly or to check it was an accurate translation. Because it’s so difficult to find Norwegian books here, we regularly use English books and sometimes he lets me read them in English but mostly he wants me to translate them into Norwegian so I’ve had lots of practice doing that.
He started nursery in the summer. Before that he had spent time around ML almost every day meeting friends or going to playgroups but didn’t use English himself. In the few weeks leading up to starting we talked a lot about what would happen at nursery and he started to say, let’s talk English so we would do that for 10 mins or so and I was surprised how much he could say. We mostly acted out scenarios he would do there about his lunchbox or putting his jacket on etc etc. Once he started nursery he didn’t want me to speak English any more and he made huge progress with it very quickly. Sometimes when he’s playing at home I hear him talking English to himself as he acts out things that happened there but he doesn’t like speaking it with me.
He went through a little phase of being worried about not being able to speak so well so we talked about the other bilingual children at nursery and he told me some can speak lots of English and some only a little. We also started playing a game where I would talk in Norwegian and then suddenly say an English word in the middle of the sentence and he would shout, ‘No, mamma. That’s English.’ and I would pretend to be shocked that an English word had jumped out of my mouth when I was trying to speak Norwegian. He found it really funny and I think it helped him feel less worried about when he speaks English and Norwegian words come out because he doesn’t know all the English words yet.
Because of Covid the last time we were in Norway was the end of February and we have no immediate plans to travel back. I’m really glad I’ve always bought some books for the future while there as they will have to last us a while. They’re so expensive to buy from here that I don’t really want to spend that amount of money without being sure they are ones my son will be interested in.
I’m really glad I kept this record here as it’s so interesting to look back on.
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