Hi everyone, I have spent a long time reading the thread about "embarrassment when talking in the ml in public "and I think your ideas are great and have given me a new perspective on how to face situations when we are in public with our baby. Sam's blog post about this issue is tremendously encouraging and describes perfectly the feelings ml parents have, especially non-native ml parents like me.
However, my concern is quite specific. I don't know how to deal with situations in which someone talks to my 14-month-old baby in ML and obviously expects me to answer for her. I know I don't have to use the ML in front of my baby, and if I do so I feel she doesn't understand me because I never speak to her in the ML. When this happens, I usually answer very briefly to that person, (maybe sounding a bit impolite...) or I speak to my baby in ml and then I see how people seem to start walking away silently...as if we didn't want to interact with them (this has happened especially with children who approach us to play with her). So the problem is that it seems that I have to choose between my baby's language development or our sociability. What can I do in this situation?I feel so stupid when this happens...
Hi, Angela. If you mean situations like when someone says something like: "And how old are you, little one?", what I do is tell my child in the ml: "Say: hi, I'm [age]" and then tell this person in the ML "S/he's [age]". This happens to me a lot with my son, and so I talk to him in the ml and translate for other adults. For instance, when we arrive at his nursery school every morning, teachers there say hello to him in the ML and I always tell my son "Say: hello!/hi!/good morning!" and then say hi to the teacher in the ML myself. No one has ever felt offended...and if someone does, that's their problem, really.
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