Not much to report here really, other than a vague feeling that I have to step up my efforts! I think I have become a bit complacent of late. I have been away for work twice and of course that makes for many hours less of exposure in ml1. My daughter still speaks in ml1 to me, but I just have this feeling that I should be doing more!
Otherwise, in the next couple of weeks I have to knuckle down and start applying for a new school for my daughter. It tires me in advance just thinking of it! One of the schools has a particularly protracted applications process, and I am really not sure how my daughter will react. The other day, I took her to the doctor for a check-up and she totally clammed up, so I can't guarantee she will speak even if there is a not a language issue per se.
Nellie, that feeling of "I should be doing more" is shared by many of us, I think! Providing language input is such a bottomless pit and it often feels like there's more that we could, and should, be doing. My rule of thumb is this: As long as we're doing our honest best, from day to day, our efforts will surely pay off in satisfying results over the longer process of nurturing our children's bilingual or multilingual ability through the years of childhood.
I wish you all the best with your efforts, Nellie, including your search for a new school for your daughter!
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I think my days away (a total of 10, over a 3-week period) have definitely had an impact. I can feel my daughter is ever-so-slightly more reluctant to speak in English with me, It may be minor, but I want to halt it now - especially as she will be staying with her ML grandparents for a week over the holidays! Luckily my husband is travelling himself for a few days starting tomorrow, so I will have more time alone with both children. I will take the opportunity to read lots. On Tuesday nights I always feel more free to read until later, as there is no school on Wednesday.
On another note, I reread my earlier entries on this thread and realised that a year ago, my expectations for ml2 were much lower than they are now. I was hoping ml2 would be a nice 'addition' to the ML and ml1, but now I really want for it to be up there with them. Funny how what we imagine is possible can change. I hope I am being realistic!
I love how we see as positives things that otherwise would be considered negatives, like our partners being away a few days. I hope you can get your daughter's English back on track these days. We joke that this journey is like a roller coaster, but it truly is!!
That's great that your expectations for one of your mls are now higher. Of course it is realistic, if it wasn't, your expectations wouldn't have changed. I think it's because you now see that it can be done to a greater extent that your expectations changed.
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Agnese: Thank you for the suggestion!
Jul 21, 2018 15:40:43 GMT 9
Mayken: My daughter met some inversed ML/ml kids today who live in our ml country. Their parents probably weren't thrilled they found n ML (for them) friend in their ml country. I'm sorry...a little bit.
Aug 7, 2018 2:07:34 GMT 9
Amy: Looks like the 3 weeks in ml1 country paid off: my ML mother reports my youngest would only speak ml1 to her! Lol Not sure ML childminder will be so happy when she returns... loool!
Aug 25, 2018 0:38:50 GMT 9
Mayken: Sounds like fun times ahead, Amy! Keep us posted.
Aug 27, 2018 23:15:08 GMT 9
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Aug 31, 2018 10:30:39 GMT 9
Amy: Happiest bilingual mum in the world : the new lady who conducts activities in ml2 with my eldest just assessed her level as pretty much equivalent to that of a native ml2 child! After that awful back-to-school start, this is like music to my ears.
Sept 6, 2018 0:00:13 GMT 9
Wojtek: I've been thinking for a long time to write an update and hopefully, I will do it one day. My brother married a Russian woman. That was nice to see that my 5-year-old daughter could play with her and speak English together!
Sept 7, 2018 21:37:25 GMT 9
Wojtek: After some time, she ran up and told me: "She is speaking English!"
Sept 7, 2018 21:38:31 GMT 9
Adam Beck: Nice to hear your happy news, Wojtek! And congratulations to your brother and his bride! It sounds like they may have a bilingual child in their future, too! Cheers to you all!
Sept 7, 2018 21:58:17 GMT 9
Mayken: Victor's flashcards look amazing! I hope I'll win the giveaway - if not, I'll purchase a set for Christmas for sure. Thanks Adam for sharing these gems with us!
Sept 26, 2018 23:32:30 GMT 9
Marisa: Adam, I second Mayken's enthusiasm and gratitude for your posting about Victor's flashcards, they look amazing, thank you so much for the post! I already bought one set
Sept 30, 2018 10:25:51 GMT 9