Post by Yoonjung on Feb 22, 2018 12:28:36 GMT 9
I'm bilingual English and Korean, we live in Korea, I have a full-time job Monday to Saturday, my 3yo son goes to Korean kindergarten, has a Korean nanny, and my Korean husband is very well educated in English but doesn't speak English to our son.
I have spoken only English to our son since birth, and he understands everything, but replies in Korean.
It is impossible to pretend I don't understand Korean as everyone around us speaks only Korean and only my husband can understand English.
I have depended heavily on English cartoons as I am usually not home, or have to clean up the house, prep food and feed him, and I read English storybooks at bedtime, but more often he is asleep when I get home.
Yesterday, my son suddenly said he doesn't want to watch English cartoons anymore, just Korean ones. I'm afraid I got really upset and I blamed our sitter and my husband for showing him Korean cartoons when I wasn't home, and banned them completely.
I actually said to my son that "English is mommy's language, and don't you want to talk to mommy? Don't you like mommy? If you don't like English, I can't talk to you anymore."
Yeah I know, I'm awful.
I don't know what to do now.
My son on the other hand, handled himself quite well and just said okay, and he giggled to Peppa Pig, and danced to Doc Mcstuffins, and fell asleep to an English storybook, so I didn't traumatize him, thank god, but I seem to have traumatized myself.
What should I say and do the next time he wants only Korean cartoons, or books?
Should I keep this ban on Korean cartoons?
I'm actually quite terrified that if I lift the ban, he will never watch English cartoons, start to dislike English books, and want me to talk in only Korean, making himself monolingual in Korean and thus inevitably suffer in high school and throughout life, because in South Korea you really need to be fluent to get good grades and a good job (good life).