I'm from the US and living in Florida with my wife (who is Chinese) and 8 month old. My wife is a native Mandarin Chinese speaker and I'm a native English speaker. I'd say we're both pretty advanced in each other's languages and so far language in the house is about 80-90% Mandarin from the both of us. I'm trying to push us towards breaking the code-switching habit but it's pretty ingrained.
Our son is only 8 months and just making sounds now but he's been hearing the ml (Mandarin) since birth so hopefully it's going to take.
The Chinese community where we live is pretty small so most of his input is going to come from us for the foreseeable future. We're loading up on materials in Chinese, and I try to read to him at least once a day when he'll let me read instead of chewing on the pages.
I've seen a few non-native ml speakers on the board say they have trouble with kid's stuff like nursery rhymes and my way around this problem has been to get an online tutor. I talked to a bunch of teachers and finally found one who has a baby just a few months older than mine. It has been nice to have someone to ask about things you wouldn't really run into as an adult like what to sing during bathtime.
Thanks Adam and all the members of the forum for your posts. Reading your experiences has been really helpful especially for someone like me who lives in a place without a strong bilingual culture.
Welcome among us and what a brilliant idea you suggested about that tutor with a young child! I guess it depends on everybody's circumstances, though. Technically, I'm a non-native speaker but I didn't struggle too much thanks to my own past history and Youtube (!). On the other hand, my husband who is a native speaker did struggle to remember nursery rhymes.
I see you are going for the minority language at home (ml@h) approach. We switched to it last year and I found it is definitely the best technique -when circumstances allow it, of course - to provide more exposure to the ml and create the need in the child to use it.
Good luck on this long-haul journey and do keep us updated: we love to hear of successes but also of others parents' trials and errors: we learn more sharing our experiences together.
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Pierre, welcome! And warm congratulations to you and your wife on the arrival of your first child earlier this year!
It certainly sounds like you have the right sort of mindful and proactive approach that will enable you to experience a lot of rewarding success over the years ahead. As long as you and your wife emphasize Mandarin as much as possible during these early, formative years--while "de-emphasizing" English to the degree that's realistic--I expect your son will eventually become a very active speaker of Chinese.
Beyond that, literacy in Mandarin will be a large challenge, of course, but steady progress in reading and writing is possible, too, as members of this community like Serina P have shown.
To explore all Mandarin-related posts at this blog, over the past few years, just use the search function with that keyword and you'll instantly get several pages of posts.
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Amy: Right you are Mayken!
Mar 28, 2018 1:43:20 GMT 9
Marisa: Way to go, Mayken! That's the (bilingual) spirit
Mar 29, 2018 0:55:54 GMT 9
Kristin T.: Will check out your podcast interview on my next run!
Mar 30, 2018 23:24:37 GMT 9
Mayken: My daughter brought home her ml report card (she gets a separate one from the regular report card at her bilingual school), and it's straight A's! (Better than her marks in ML on the main report card.) I'm so proud!!!
Mar 31, 2018 6:10:44 GMT 9
Amy: Gratuliere (Congratulations) Mayken!!
Mar 31, 2018 16:54:17 GMT 9
Mayken: Thank you, Amy! As a reward, we allowed her to purchase a big item from her Christmas money--a Playmobil house, with which she now plays in ml!
Apr 4, 2018 3:37:31 GMT 9
Amy: Reward all the way round . Bilingual education can be a virtuous circle
Apr 4, 2018 5:26:18 GMT 9
Nellie: What great news, Mayken!
Apr 5, 2018 4:36:26 GMT 9
Raquel: I totally missed this. Congratulations, Mayken!! You have reason to be proud
Apr 10, 2018 20:08:02 GMT 9
Mayken: Thanks everyone! Today my daughter helped a classmate finish her ml homework just before school - all in ml. (My daughter had finished hers the day before at home.)
Apr 11, 2018 3:58:56 GMT 9
Raquel: I'm so sorry to hear about your mother's passing, Adam. She sounds like an amazing woman. Sending you a big hug from Madrid.
Apr 12, 2018 18:16:38 GMT 9
Marie: I am sorry to hear about your mother Adam. Thinking of you and your family.
Apr 13, 2018 4:25:21 GMT 9
Jana: What a beautiful tribute you wrote to your mother. Sending condolences from the SF Bay Area!
Apr 14, 2018 5:34:03 GMT 9
Kristin T.: I enjoyed reading your post about your mother. Those were some amazing photos to cherish forever. I am sorry for your loss. I know it's ever the more painful having been an expat so long. Take care & be kind to yourself.
Apr 16, 2018 2:24:35 GMT 9
Nellie: I'm so sorry to read about your mother Adam. She sounds like an incredible woman. Your friends across the world are thinking of you and your family!
Apr 17, 2018 0:50:25 GMT 9
Adam Beck: Thank you, everyone, for your warm expressions of sympathy on the loss of my mother. Your friendship and support has meant a lot to me at this challenging time.
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