I'm from the US and living in Florida with my wife (who is Chinese) and 8 month old. My wife is a native Mandarin Chinese speaker and I'm a native English speaker. I'd say we're both pretty advanced in each other's languages and so far language in the house is about 80-90% Mandarin from the both of us. I'm trying to push us towards breaking the code-switching habit but it's pretty ingrained.
Our son is only 8 months and just making sounds now but he's been hearing the ml (Mandarin) since birth so hopefully it's going to take.
The Chinese community where we live is pretty small so most of his input is going to come from us for the foreseeable future. We're loading up on materials in Chinese, and I try to read to him at least once a day when he'll let me read instead of chewing on the pages.
I've seen a few non-native ml speakers on the board say they have trouble with kid's stuff like nursery rhymes and my way around this problem has been to get an online tutor. I talked to a bunch of teachers and finally found one who has a baby just a few months older than mine. It has been nice to have someone to ask about things you wouldn't really run into as an adult like what to sing during bathtime.
Thanks Adam and all the members of the forum for your posts. Reading your experiences has been really helpful especially for someone like me who lives in a place without a strong bilingual culture.
Welcome among us and what a brilliant idea you suggested about that tutor with a young child! I guess it depends on everybody's circumstances, though. Technically, I'm a non-native speaker but I didn't struggle too much thanks to my own past history and Youtube (!). On the other hand, my husband who is a native speaker did struggle to remember nursery rhymes.
I see you are going for the minority language at home (ml@h) approach. We switched to it last year and I found it is definitely the best technique -when circumstances allow it, of course - to provide more exposure to the ml and create the need in the child to use it.
Good luck on this long-haul journey and do keep us updated: we love to hear of successes but also of others parents' trials and errors: we learn more sharing our experiences together.
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Pierre, welcome! And warm congratulations to you and your wife on the arrival of your first child earlier this year!
It certainly sounds like you have the right sort of mindful and proactive approach that will enable you to experience a lot of rewarding success over the years ahead. As long as you and your wife emphasize Mandarin as much as possible during these early, formative years--while "de-emphasizing" English to the degree that's realistic--I expect your son will eventually become a very active speaker of Chinese.
Beyond that, literacy in Mandarin will be a large challenge, of course, but steady progress in reading and writing is possible, too, as members of this community like Serina P have shown.
To explore all Mandarin-related posts at this blog, over the past few years, just use the search function with that keyword and you'll instantly get several pages of posts.
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Mayken: My 7-year-old, her ML dad and a ml family are going to the Christmas market at a ml school today - and I can't go with them! (Hope that ML dad's presence doesn't stop the kids from speaking ml together.)
Dec 2, 2017 22:12:04 GMT 9
Amy: I'm sure the language balance is heavily in favour of the ml. Don't you worry Mayken. And it's also good that your daughter sees that the ml exists beyond the Mummy sphere. It will give more weight to the ml to hear from another sphere.
Dec 2, 2017 22:51:42 GMT 9
Mayken: In the end, it was my daughter with ML dad and the other girl with ML mom (but who's fluent in ml). The other girl got tired of ml after a while but my girl chatted with people in ml and bought ml books and a snack, all in ml!
Dec 5, 2017 0:29:57 GMT 9
Amy: Not so bad after all then, Mayken
Dec 5, 2017 6:27:24 GMT 9
Mayken: Not bad at all, I just regret I wasn't there with them.
Dec 6, 2017 6:11:36 GMT 9
Amy: As the French have it Mayken: "ce n'est que partie remise!"
Dec 6, 2017 18:47:06 GMT 9
Mayken: My daughter wrote her letter to Santa in the ml this weekend, and we'll send it to Santa's address in the ml country, that way she'll get an ml letter back from him! Last item on her wishlist reads "The second Harry Potter book, and more books."
Dec 11, 2017 23:59:38 GMT 9
Adam Beck: More books is always good!
Dec 12, 2017 8:15:58 GMT 9
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Dec 12, 2017 8:16:04 GMT 9