Hi, have any of you used an au pair to help with language progress. If yes, any tips? How helpful were they? We are getting a summer French au pair and hoping she can help the kids progress in French during the summer. My daughter started at French Bilingual School in January and my son will start in September. Her French teacher said she still has catching up to do, as the other kids have been there twice as long and most have French parents/parent. We do not speak French, but I am learning as she learns. I am sure she is learning more then me, but I am learning what I can (basic phrases and tons of vocab). Anyway, we have an au pair coming and I am hoping it will help encourage the kids to speak more French and feel more comfortable. My son isn't shy, but my daughter is a little shy speaking it. The au pair is aware we are having her so she can speak only French to the kids and in front of the kids. I said when the kids are asleep or not around I am happy to speak in English to her.
We have an au pair for the first time since August 2016. The impact on language was AMAZING. Some advice: have a very clear discussion about you wanting him/her to speak the ml. It is important that your kids code him/her as ml, and you create the "need." The system of speaking ML when kids are nowhere near is perfect. We did the same. If you can fold in singing music together, playing games in French, reading together in French, you should see a huge effect. Good luck...and enjoy!
Thanks so much, happy to hear its helped you a lot. We are hoping it helps. We definately plan on her reading to the kids in French a lot! And of course music, games. I am hoping we have a good experience so we can get an au pair for longer the next time.
We currently have a ml babysitter for our daughter every weekday afternoon from 3.30-6. We arranged for her to finish crèche at 3.30 for the express purpose of increasing her exposure to ml1, and it definitely helps - just hearing someone other than her parents speak in the ml means that it becomes more of a "legitimate" language in her mind, I think!
She does know that the babysitter speaks the ML, and she (my daughter) tends to speak a lot of the time to her (the babysitter) in ML, but we definitely notice that she also comes up with expressions in ml1 that she must have heard from the babysitter, so it is definitely helping!
I told my kids the au pair does not understand a word of English and I explained to the au pair that we are going to pretend she doesn't speak English. I hope this lasts so the kids can try to speak French as much as possible! Not sure it will work, but we will see. At least they will get a lot of exposure to French with the au pair living with us.
We have a German (ml) nanny for our 2.2 year old; I'm bilingual, her Dad is English only and we live in London.
It works brilliantly.
Small Girl knows that our nanny (who is awesome and we'd love her even if she wasn't ml) can speak ML, but nanny pretty much only speaks to her in ml. Small Girl is code-switching a lot at the moment ("No, not Erdbeeren!" "Go Spielplatz!") - she seems to be about 3-6 months behind in her German compared to her English, in that she seems to only have German nouns but the filler words in English. Supernanny takes her to German playgroups, has found a couple of other German-speaking nannies of kids of a similar age so they have German speaking playdates... in short - our bilingual journey would have stopped a long time ago if we hadn't made a conscious choice for our childcare provision (while I'm at work) to be ml-"only". Plus I get to play the fun game of "do you know what this is called? And do you know what [nanny] calls it?"
I've also got personal experience on the other side - my parents (bilingual but English preferred) had German au pairs for 5 years when my sister was little, and we all spoke German together in front of au pairs and English amongst ourselves; my German certainly benefited and my sister grew up nicely bilingual (until she started going to ML-only school and we didn't have au pairs any more).
My tips would be: - make sure you get someone you'd be comfortable with even if they weren't helping on the bilingual journey! - be really clear in terms of expectations of language use with the kids, not just conversation, but books, music, playgroups (?), playdates - if you can empower the au pair to help you with the bilingual journey, they may have some good ideas!
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Amy: Agnese, it is simply because they never had the opportunity to be acquainted so closely to that language. Just smile and keep going. Over time (even if this may seem long), the comments will fade. Don't show your son you are embarrassed by your ml.
Jul 16, 2018 3:56:41 GMT 9
Adam Beck: Agnese, I strongly second Amy's advice! Stay strong and continue speaking Italian!
Jul 18, 2018 6:22:37 GMT 9
Adam Beck: And Agnese, keep in mind that, above all, the highest priority is your bilingual aim, not the other passing concerns that are part of this experience (for us all). Don't let these distract you from the greater goal.
Jul 18, 2018 6:24:49 GMT 9
Agnese: Thank you! After this setback I feel stronger than ever! The same day of the incident I ordered plenty of books in the ml on Amazon and I'm reading every day new research on bilingualism and bilingual education. I'm ready to defend my goal! Thanks
Jul 19, 2018 18:37:58 GMT 9
Agnese: Thank you for the suggestion!
Jul 21, 2018 15:40:43 GMT 9
Mayken: My daughter met some inversed ML/ml kids today who live in our ml country. Their parents probably weren't thrilled they found n ML (for them) friend in their ml country. I'm sorry...a little bit.
Aug 7, 2018 2:07:34 GMT 9
Amy: Looks like the 3 weeks in ml1 country paid off: my ML mother reports my youngest would only speak ml1 to her! Lol Not sure ML childminder will be so happy when she returns... loool!
Aug 25, 2018 0:38:50 GMT 9
Mayken: Sounds like fun times ahead, Amy! Keep us posted.
Aug 27, 2018 23:15:08 GMT 9
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Aug 31, 2018 10:30:39 GMT 9
Amy: Happiest bilingual mum in the world : the new lady who conducts activities in ml2 with my eldest just assessed her level as pretty much equivalent to that of a native ml2 child! After that awful back-to-school start, this is like music to my ears.
Sept 6, 2018 0:00:13 GMT 9
Wojtek: I've been thinking for a long time to write an update and hopefully, I will do it one day. My brother married a Russian woman. That was nice to see that my 5-year-old daughter could play with her and speak English together!
Sept 7, 2018 21:37:25 GMT 9
Wojtek: After some time, she ran up and told me: "She is speaking English!"
Sept 7, 2018 21:38:31 GMT 9
Adam Beck: Nice to hear your happy news, Wojtek! And congratulations to your brother and his bride! It sounds like they may have a bilingual child in their future, too! Cheers to you all!
Sept 7, 2018 21:58:17 GMT 9