Friends, the most amazing thing just happened! I made a deal with my son (9 months old) so that he'd go to sleep, and...it actually worked!
He clearly needed a nap, but he didn't want to go to sleep. He was squirming, and wiggling, and smiling at me so that I'd let him stay awake. Even after I'd sung him a couple of songs and read him "Princess Super Kitty" twice (translating on the fly to our ml), he crawled over to where I had put down the book and started grabbing at the cover. So I told him I'd make a deal with him: I'd read him "Princess Super Kitty" ONE more time, and then he'd go to sleep. I read, he sleeps: that's the deal. So I read him the book (for the third time in a row!), and – miracle of miracles – he closed his eyes as soon as it was over and went straight to sleep!
We've gotten signs already that he understands some of the ml, even though he isn't talking yet, but this was a pretty big step in that direction. And it's also not the first time that he seems to have tried using books as a way of avoiding bedtime, but again, this was the most significant evidence so far that he really likes books (and not only because they delay bedtime).
If parenting is like playing a video game (as Tatyana L has memorably said), then I can imagine the game-master chiming in: "Level 9 Parent Has Gained a Level!" (I've definitely gained *at least* 9 levels in the first 9 months...)
Good for you, Sam! And good for your son! This is a very positive sign and happy news to hear!
Adam Beck is the founder of Bilingual Monkeys and The Bilingual Zoo, and the author of the popular non-fiction book Maximize Your Child's Bilingual Ability amzn.to/22XKuCt and the humorous novel How I Lost My Ear amzn.to/2EsjVRS, both available worldwide.
That's a lovely story. Reading books has always been a part of our bedtime routine and my son and I both really enjoy that cosy time together before he goes to sleep. When he chooses a book in the other language, my husband and I also either translate it to our own language or look through the pictures and describe them.
I hope your son continues to develop his love for books and also that he continues his good sleeping!
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