A totally surreal moment happened to me this week. My daughter has been trying to advocate for changing after school daycare. She wants to go back to the one with her younger sister, and not the one right next to the school where all her friends go. Every few days I ask her what is wrong with the one she is in now, and I get a different answer every time. Well this week's answer was a moment of beauty:
"Mama, they speak Russian in Mila's daycare, I want to speak Russian."
I didn't know whether to laugh or cry or make a meme. "I want to speak my weaker language more - said no child ever." It's cute though how she has realized that her speaking Russian is important to me and has learned how to play on that desire.
So have any of you had moments where your child has used their minority language to get their way?
Tatyana, I can't think of a specific moment, but my children do take full advantage of the fact that they can plead for the same things in two languages, once to me in English and once to my wife in Japanese. Fortunately, though, we're usually on the same page and present a united front--and when we're not sure about the other's position, we just avoid a definite answer and pass the buck by saying, "Go ask Mommy/Daddy."
Anyway, I really enjoyed your story and I'm happy to hear you're having such success--despite some challenging circumstances--at fostering active ability in the minority language and an active desire to use it!
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Mayken: My 7-year-old, her ML dad and a ml family are going to the Christmas market at a ml school today - and I can't go with them! (Hope that ML dad's presence doesn't stop the kids from speaking ml together.)
Dec 2, 2017 22:12:04 GMT 9
Amy: I'm sure the language balance is heavily in favour of the ml. Don't you worry Mayken. And it's also good that your daughter sees that the ml exists beyond the Mummy sphere. It will give more weight to the ml to hear from another sphere.
Dec 2, 2017 22:51:42 GMT 9
Mayken: In the end, it was my daughter with ML dad and the other girl with ML mom (but who's fluent in ml). The other girl got tired of ml after a while but my girl chatted with people in ml and bought ml books and a snack, all in ml!
Dec 5, 2017 0:29:57 GMT 9
Amy: Not so bad after all then, Mayken
Dec 5, 2017 6:27:24 GMT 9
Mayken: Not bad at all, I just regret I wasn't there with them.
Dec 6, 2017 6:11:36 GMT 9
Amy: As the French have it Mayken: "ce n'est que partie remise!"
Dec 6, 2017 18:47:06 GMT 9
Mayken: My daughter wrote her letter to Santa in the ml this weekend, and we'll send it to Santa's address in the ml country, that way she'll get an ml letter back from him! Last item on her wishlist reads "The second Harry Potter book, and more books."
Dec 11, 2017 23:59:38 GMT 9
Adam Beck: More books is always good!
Dec 12, 2017 8:15:58 GMT 9
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Dec 12, 2017 8:16:04 GMT 9