A totally surreal moment happened to me this week. My daughter has been trying to advocate for changing after school daycare. She wants to go back to the one with her younger sister, and not the one right next to the school where all her friends go. Every few days I ask her what is wrong with the one she is in now, and I get a different answer every time. Well this week's answer was a moment of beauty:
"Mama, they speak Russian in Mila's daycare, I want to speak Russian."
I didn't know whether to laugh or cry or make a meme. "I want to speak my weaker language more - said no child ever." It's cute though how she has realized that her speaking Russian is important to me and has learned how to play on that desire.
So have any of you had moments where your child has used their minority language to get their way?
Tatyana, I can't think of a specific moment, but my children do take full advantage of the fact that they can plead for the same things in two languages, once to me in English and once to my wife in Japanese. Fortunately, though, we're usually on the same page and present a united front--and when we're not sure about the other's position, we just avoid a definite answer and pass the buck by saying, "Go ask Mommy/Daddy."
Anyway, I really enjoyed your story and I'm happy to hear you're having such success--despite some challenging circumstances--at fostering active ability in the minority language and an active desire to use it!
Adam Beck is the founder of Bilingual Monkeys and The Bilingual Zoo, and the author of the popular non-fiction book Maximize Your Child's Bilingual Ability amzn.to/22XKuCt and the humorous novel How I Lost My Ear amzn.to/2EsjVRS, both available worldwide.
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Jan 10, 2019 0:14:02 GMT 9
Veda L: Many thanks to Mayken for the tip. Finally changed my profile. To those who are celebrating Chinese New Year, a healthy and prosperous year of the pig in advance!
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Mayken: Hey Adam Beck, how come your photo on that list is bigger than everyone else's?
Jan 31, 2019 23:59:17 GMT 9
Adam Beck: Mayken, I don't know, but I wish I could say it's because I'm taller! My son (almost 12) is now nearly as tall as I am. Just yesterday I told him that I have to start growing again!
Feb 1, 2019 10:12:14 GMT 9
Mayken: Adam Beck, thanks for sharing the impressions of your trip to China! I love those duck boats and that doorway! And meeting those kids wanting to speak English with you is so amazing!(I won't enter the giveaway because I'm afraid of winning the chicken claws!)
Feb 6, 2019 0:24:50 GMT 9
Mayken: My friend S asked her bilingual 2.5-year-old daughter: What language do mommy & daddy speak? D: English! S: What language does Grandma speak? D: French! S: What language do the cats speak? D (*thinks, then answers*): Meow!
Feb 7, 2019 0:08:00 GMT 9
Amy: Bless!! how cute is that!!! Reminds me of a similar thing that happened with my youngest when she was 18 months: she said the sound right for every animal but the cow. She kept answering "Lola" because of a famous Spanish nursery rhyme about a cow!
Feb 7, 2019 0:40:09 GMT 9
Alba: My son caught us by surprise when we said thank you (in English) to a waiter in a Mexican restaurant, and he said "gracias" (thank you) to him too in Spanish, also signing it! He was having a blast and there was some Spanish music in the background.
Feb 10, 2019 18:48:58 GMT 9
Adam Beck: Sounds like a wonderful moment, Alba!
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