A totally surreal moment happened to me this week. My daughter has been trying to advocate for changing after school daycare. She wants to go back to the one with her younger sister, and not the one right next to the school where all her friends go. Every few days I ask her what is wrong with the one she is in now, and I get a different answer every time. Well this week's answer was a moment of beauty:
"Mama, they speak Russian in Mila's daycare, I want to speak Russian."
I didn't know whether to laugh or cry or make a meme. "I want to speak my weaker language more - said no child ever." It's cute though how she has realized that her speaking Russian is important to me and has learned how to play on that desire.
So have any of you had moments where your child has used their minority language to get their way?
Tatyana, I can't think of a specific moment, but my children do take full advantage of the fact that they can plead for the same things in two languages, once to me in English and once to my wife in Japanese. Fortunately, though, we're usually on the same page and present a united front--and when we're not sure about the other's position, we just avoid a definite answer and pass the buck by saying, "Go ask Mommy/Daddy."
Anyway, I really enjoyed your story and I'm happy to hear you're having such success--despite some challenging circumstances--at fostering active ability in the minority language and an active desire to use it!
Adam Beck is the founder of Bilingual Monkeys and The Bilingual Zoo, and the author of the popular non-fiction book Maximize Your Child's Bilingual Ability amzn.to/22XKuCt and the humorous novel How I Lost My Ear amzn.to/2EsjVRS, both available worldwide.
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Agnese: Thank you for the suggestion!
Jul 21, 2018 15:40:43 GMT 9
Mayken: My daughter met some inversed ML/ml kids today who live in our ml country. Their parents probably weren't thrilled they found n ML (for them) friend in their ml country. I'm sorry...a little bit.
Aug 7, 2018 2:07:34 GMT 9
Amy: Looks like the 3 weeks in ml1 country paid off: my ML mother reports my youngest would only speak ml1 to her! Lol Not sure ML childminder will be so happy when she returns... loool!
Aug 25, 2018 0:38:50 GMT 9
Mayken: Sounds like fun times ahead, Amy! Keep us posted.
Aug 27, 2018 23:15:08 GMT 9
Adam Beck: NEW! Something Strange Happened 2 Days After We Moved into Our New House (And Its Significance to Change and Transformation on the Bilingual Journey)buff.ly/2ww8WDD
Aug 31, 2018 10:30:39 GMT 9
Amy: Happiest bilingual mum in the world : the new lady who conducts activities in ml2 with my eldest just assessed her level as pretty much equivalent to that of a native ml2 child! After that awful back-to-school start, this is like music to my ears.
Sept 6, 2018 0:00:13 GMT 9
Wojtek: I've been thinking for a long time to write an update and hopefully, I will do it one day. My brother married a Russian woman. That was nice to see that my 5-year-old daughter could play with her and speak English together!
Sept 7, 2018 21:37:25 GMT 9
Wojtek: After some time, she ran up and told me: "She is speaking English!"
Sept 7, 2018 21:38:31 GMT 9
Adam Beck: Nice to hear your happy news, Wojtek! And congratulations to your brother and his bride! It sounds like they may have a bilingual child in their future, too! Cheers to you all!
Sept 7, 2018 21:58:17 GMT 9
Mayken: Victor's flashcards look amazing! I hope I'll win the giveaway - if not, I'll purchase a set for Christmas for sure. Thanks Adam for sharing these gems with us!
Sept 26, 2018 23:32:30 GMT 9
Marisa: Adam, I second Mayken's enthusiasm and gratitude for your posting about Victor's flashcards, they look amazing, thank you so much for the post! I already bought one set
Sept 30, 2018 10:25:51 GMT 9