I would love to hear from other parents who have a child who is reluctant to learn the minority language. I have a 7 year old son who really has no interest in learning French. He tells me he would much rather learn Spanish. I explained to him that I don't speak Spanish, but I speak French and if he learns French with me, it would be very easy to learn Spanish. I even told him that if he learns French, I would learn Spanish with him. I have no idea why he is motivated to learn Spanish.
I have bought him his favorite movies and books in French. I have tried rewards and he just says "it's too boring". I find quiet time when it is just the two of us, to read, play and talk in French. He just pushes back and insists he is not interested.
By the way, this son is extremely intelligent and very good at sports. But he won't attempt anything until he knows he can do it perfectly. If the challenge seems too large, he will just refuse to try.
What about beginning with Spanish? If he is motivated to learn, why not start with that? Even if you don't speak Spanish, it should be fairly easy for you to pick up since you speak French already. You could start with watching youtube videos with songs, the numbers, colors, alphabets, and work your way up from there.
Honestly, I feel that learning Spanish can be easier, since it is very phonetic, unlike French (I found this to be the case for myself anyway, having learned French first). I think it could be a good confidence-builder and make him more willing to give French a try.
I would encourage that motivation, wherever it came from!
Hi Lena, I have to tell you what happened after I read your post. At first, I hung on to my desire for French, French all French Then I thought about all the Spanish resources I have. Our church has lots of churches in South America, so I would have access to lots of materials in Spanish, even homeschooling materials in Spanish. Maybe it could even lead to a trip to Guatemala or Costa Rica. And I think Spanish is the prettiest sounding language in the world. I was really excited So I came to my 7 year old, thrilled to take on the challenge of learning Spanish with him. He was not impressed by my enthusiasm and said "I am NOT learning Spanish!". He was adamant. My grand plans did nothing to persuade him. So I dropped it.
Later last night, I was practicing Dutch. I am learning Dutch (very slowly) when I have a few quiet minutes. Usually it is late at night when the children are fast asleep. Last night I was watching some Dutch instructional video when my 7 year old son came up to me to watch too. He said "Hey! That sounds just like French! I know what they are saying. That's the language I want to learn". Yippppeeeeee I found a window. He thinks he understands a whole language because his French skills are better than we both realize Dutch resources are not as easy to come by as Spanish ones. But we have a brother in law whose first language is Dutch so we can have lots of reasons to learn it and opportunity to practice.
Also, last night, I was outside gardening and my little girls (ages 4 and 3) were jumping on the trampoline, playing in FRENCH!!!!! It was music to my ears
Melissa I had similar experiences to yours. I expected for my daughter to either resist in learning Russian or learn it reluctantly and go on about her world. What I did not expect is her showing linguistic preference and desire to learn other languages. I started re-learning Swedish a few months ago and she came and joined me when I was doing computer flashcards with Swedish words. Her memory for languages is really good! However after about 10 minutes she said she doesn't like this language (she doesn't know the name for Swedish yet) and she wants to do the languages that Dora [the Explorer] speaks. What's more she actually sat and learned and asked to play the Spanish flashcards the next day.
It blew me away that by making her bilingual I not only teach her another language but plant the seed of love of languages in her. She starts kindergarten this fall and she tells anyone who will listen that she's going to speak Spanish there.
Personally I agree with you, Spanish is the prettiest language in the world. I've wanted to learn it for as long as I can remember.
Marisa: "Victory moment:" My almost 4-year-old daughter told me yesterday in the ml (rough translation): "mom, there's something wrong with the cartoons, can you fix it, please?"... she was accidentally watching TV in the ML! So I gladly obliged
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Amy: Awww bless her, Marisa!!! That was so cute!! <3
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Adam Beck: Marisa, give that little minority language lover a big hug from me!
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Mayken: We're at Harry Potter Book Night at the English bookshop in Paris. The activities are all in French but my daughter teamed up for the treasure hunt with a girl who also speaks ouf ml German!
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